When my oldest son was a baby, I felt self-conscience about every decision I made with him, especially when we were in public. I felt like every mom was looking at me, thinking, “Oh my gosh! I can’t believe she’s doing THAT!” (And as I hung out with some moms, I figured out that I had good reason for thinking that. I don’t hang out with those moms any more.)
After my second, and especially after my third, I definitely learned to let go and not care about other people and their opinions. My parents always told me that God put each child exactly where he wanted them, to give them the best chance of finding Him. So, unless some one was abusing their child they kept their opinions to themselves.
“And he made from one man every nation of mankind to live on all the face of the earth, having determined allotted periods and the boundaries of their dwelling place, that they should seek God, and perhaps feel their way toward him and find him.” -Acts 17:26-27
Chris and I are super laid back parents. We believe 1000% in natural consequences. So, as we have THREE BOYS, it is not infrequent in public places for people to reach out their hands and say, “Oh my gosh! Is he going to fall?!” and look at me with panic and repugnance.
And, you know what? They might fall. They’ll learn a boundary. Something they can’t do. Or, they’ll try again and conquer it!
I’m not going to walk around teaching my boys to be afraid of the world and everything in it. I’m not going to teach them to be afraid of their own curiosity and adventure. I absolutely refuse to make them quiet, scared little people.
It is my job to bolster them, to teach them to be strong and courageous because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go!
So, “Go! Be brave! Do hard things! I believe in you!”
When Chris takes them out and they are being crazy, it’s “Adorable and sweet! Look at those boys with their dad!”
When I’m there, I get the looks. I’m not fitting into the mold.
It’s cool. I don’t care.
I encourage you to not care either. God gave your kids to YOU! He believes in you! He’ll cover whatever gaps are left behind because He loves your kids infinitely more than you have the capability to.
Trust yourself and God’s grace.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be brave. I believe in you.