Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Y’all, I love LOVE! I adore this day spent celebrating all of the love in our lives.
To be honest, in the beginning of my marriage days like Valentine’s Day were a setup for disappointment.
Like most women, I love romantic comedies and chick flicks. Pride & Prejudice is my favorite book and movie. When I was marrying a man with the last name “Bennett,” I was very excited.
These stories, however, set up incredibly difficult expectations for the men in our lives. Often, they don’t live up to them, and we are left feeling rejected and unloved.
Over the years, I learned to be intentional about my expectations and recognize the love that I had right in front of me. My husband is my absolute best friend. He works incredibly hard for our family. He makes me laugh constantly. He plays with our boys all the time.
I would challenge you to do the same. In order to love your husband well, and have the best Valentine’s Day ever here’s a couple tips:
Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Like I said, after the first few years of our marriage, I had expectations of romance that my husband just couldn’t meet. We had a baby, we were both in school, he was working 2-3 jobs. Our life was insane.
I chose to focus on all of the things he was doing for our family. He was working crazy hard, allowing me to stay home with our son and finish my college education because he knew that was important to me. He rarely hung out with friends; he spent his free time with me and our son.
I still focus on this because my husband loves me so well. Last week, he literally took care of our entire life while I laid in bed sick with the flu. Laundry, kids, dishes, dinners, bathtime, bedtime. All of it. He’s amazing. He loves me.
Be Appreciative & Kind
Today, of all days, don’t criticize. Be appreciative and voice it. Honestly, even if he doesn’t give you a thing, make a point to express your appreciation for him. Tell him what you love about him, what he does that you are grateful for, what he does that makes you smile.
If you’re in a hard season of marriage, make this a regular thing. Decide that no matter what he says or does, you will be kind. You will only speak kind words. You will only make kind actions. And if you can’t, be silent until you can.
Kindness rubs off.
Celebrate Your Marriage
Find a way to celebrate the day together that fits your season of life.
Since we had kids, we celebrate Valentine’s Day as a family. We grab a heart-shaped pizza and watch a movie together. We give some extra hugs and kisses, and simply spend time together.
For us, it’s perfect.
Reflect on your life together. Sit on the back porch together. Simply celebrate the love in your life.
I hope you have an amazing Valentine’s Day with your husband and family!
Let me know your Valentine’s traditions in the comments below!