Do you enjoy being in your home? Is it relaxing? Is it comfy? Is it a refuge?
If not, it should be. It CAN be!
Honestly, we often go to friends’ houses and I think, “Oh! I should decorate more like her!”
But then I go home and I look around, and remember, “No. This. This is who we are.” Our home reflects who we are. Our values. Our ambitions. Our goals.
Our home is the place where we can let go and relax. It reminds us of the adventures we’ve had, and gets us excited about those to come. It is filled with reminders of God’s goodness and faithfulness.
People often come over and say, “I need you to come decorate my house!” I simply smile because I should not be the one to take on that role. Here’s why: Your house needs to be a reflection of your family values.
It should remind you of treasured memories and spur you on toward your future. It should never simply be decorated with beautiful things, but with meaningful things.
Here’s a few ways to make that happen in your home:
1. Tackle the Clutter
After I read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and several blogs about minimalism, I was reminded of how good it feels to purge the junk! I have always been one to go through every few months and rid our house of things that are not useful, but lately I have become more aware of how having so much excess and clutter fills my mind with all kinds of chaos and worry about things I don’t want to be worried about!
So, first, go through your home room by room, and get rid of the stuff that doesn’t bring you joy. The stuff you haven’t used in forever. The clothes you don’t wear, especially the clothes that you don’t fit into any more but hope you will again someday… Get rid of them.
The toys. Oh, the toys. Pare down your kids stuff. I used to have to spend at least a couple of hours cleaning up the boys’ rooms before having a party or guests come over, simply because their bedrooms would be covered in toys. I would make them help, but they are little and it became such an overwhelming task that I would often just do it on my own, and be frustrated.
I have gotten rid of so many toys, and now there aren’t enough to overwhelm them. They can clean up their own rooms, and I expect it.
Examine anything in your house that frequently creates a mess to be cleaned, and decide if it is necessary in your life. Pare it down.
2. Bring Back the Memories
Look around and see what memories are brought up by the things in your house. Look at your pictures. Look at your trinkets and mementos. Examine how these memories make you feel.
What have been the biggest days of your life?
What was the most exciting trip you ever took?
What was something challenging that you overcame?
Who are the people in your life that motivate you and excite you? Why? What have you done together?
Think through your memory bank, pull up your favorites, and decide on pictures or mementos that remind you of these things. Get rid of the rest of it! If you have a shelf full of trinkets that don’t evoke any emotion, get rid of them!
3. Get Inspiration
What inspires and motivates you? Is it powerful quotes? Is it beautiful images? Is it checklists and plans for the future?
Whatever is going to help you feel inspired to take action on your goals, surround yourself with these things! Set up reminders of what you want to do, where you want to go, who you want to be.
4. Remember Your Values
What do you value? God? Family? Courage? Kindness? Truthfulness?
I love the hymn Come, Thou Fount of Every Blessing.
“Here I raise my Ebenezer,
Hither by Thy help I’ve come;
And I hope, by Thy good pleasure,
Safely to arrive at home.”
Ebenezer means “Stone of Help,” it comes from I Samuel 7 after God helped them defeat the Philistines, Samuel raised up this stone as a reminder of how God helped them.
Set up Ebenezers throughout your home to remind yourself of God’s work in your life and of the qualities you value.
Inspire yourself and your family to remember where you came from, where you are now, and where you are headed.
When you look at these reminders, examine whether your time, money, and energy are reflecting your true values. If not, take action and make it right!
Finally, look around at the rest and decide what is useful and what is not. If it doesn’t bring about special memories, inspiration, or remind you of your values, then examine its usefulness. If you don’t use it at least once every month, it needs to go. It is filling up valuable space in your home, your mind, and your heart.
I promise when your home is free of clutter, and filled with memories, inspiration, and ebenezers it not only feels like a true haven of comfort but will be a place to be filled up, set right, and made ready to take on the world.
What is your favorite piece of decoration in your home? Why?
If you’ve never taken the time to sit down and reflect on what it is your family values, I would love to offer you this free workbook, “Create Your Family Purpose Statement.” Now is the perfect time to decide on what is important, and who you will be. If you want it, its yours. 🙂 Just tell me where to send it below!
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